Monday 2 August 2010
Getting there...
I made it to 3:49 pm yesterday without complaining... I'm getting there! I feel another complaint free day coming on.
According to the book, most people take about 6 months to make 21 days. That's not bad... I've done about 1 month now.
According to the book, most people take about 6 months to make 21 days. That's not bad... I've done about 1 month now.
Saturday 31 July 2010
Fully Inclusive
I witnessed an amazing and amusing complaining rant at a travel agent this week, and thought I'd share it...
A person had been on an all inclusive holiday package to France, and came in to complain that:
1) The restaurant only served French cuisine - they had to put up with it for 2 weeks!
2) kids food - there was only pizza and chips
3) Snacks - only French cakes were available - there should have been a burger anytime the kids wanted it.
4) The hotel had a 'pink day' where everyone wore pink and they dyed the pool pink.
5) There was nothing to do - they just had to sit around.
6) They got a sun tan because there was nothing to do.
7) The hotel staff spoke French instead of English.
I have to admit I thought about asking her for the details - it sounds ideal for my family!!!
A person had been on an all inclusive holiday package to France, and came in to complain that:
1) The restaurant only served French cuisine - they had to put up with it for 2 weeks!
2) kids food - there was only pizza and chips
3) Snacks - only French cakes were available - there should have been a burger anytime the kids wanted it.
4) The hotel had a 'pink day' where everyone wore pink and they dyed the pool pink.
5) There was nothing to do - they just had to sit around.
6) They got a sun tan because there was nothing to do.
7) The hotel staff spoke French instead of English.
I have to admit I thought about asking her for the details - it sounds ideal for my family!!!
Friday 30 July 2010
Complaining at my children
Today, some of my complaints were against my children or my wife.
I attended a training course recently where they said 80% of the language we hear must be positive if any learning or meaningful development is to take place.
So does that mean that if we can achieve 100% positive, then learning and change will be enhanced?
I am certainly certain in the belief that I will never change my children's behaviour by complaining at them. Never.
So what is the point? It doesn't make me feel better! Complaining at my family, however mild the complaint might be, is unhealthy, unhelpful, and achieves nothing.
It's good to see others in my family use more positive language towards me as I model it to them.
I attended a training course recently where they said 80% of the language we hear must be positive if any learning or meaningful development is to take place.
So does that mean that if we can achieve 100% positive, then learning and change will be enhanced?
I am certainly certain in the belief that I will never change my children's behaviour by complaining at them. Never.
So what is the point? It doesn't make me feel better! Complaining at my family, however mild the complaint might be, is unhealthy, unhelpful, and achieves nothing.
It's good to see others in my family use more positive language towards me as I model it to them.
Early morning complaining
(still no 2nd day complaint free, but I'm working on it)
I have noticed that I complain sometimes when I am woken up first thing in the morning. Complaining that the children are awake or whatever reason. How sad that my first subconscious thought is to complain.
I will start working on going to sleep in a relaxed state - perhaps that will help.
I have noticed that I complain sometimes when I am woken up first thing in the morning. Complaining that the children are awake or whatever reason. How sad that my first subconscious thought is to complain.
I will start working on going to sleep in a relaxed state - perhaps that will help.
Wednesday 28 July 2010
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